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Peace Through Paradox

No you’re not crazy. The more soulful you are, the more you grow, the more complicated life gets because the more complex you are.

If you were completely simple and “sane” without a challenging thought, that would be cause for concern.

Self mastery is not about minimizing yourself – any of your thoughts, passions and dreams. It’s not about life becoming simple in the quaint sense. You’d have to give up your unique identity and intriguing idiosyncrasies to do that.

Self mastery is integrating your complexity and making peace with your paradox. When you achieve this you will truly be lighter and free.

Wake Up

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When you’re in a situation you know is bad, is skewed, is corrupt why would you defend it? Why would you shut the blinds on the light and hide deeper in a rotted space?

That’s what boggles the mind in regard to politics. Every time someone happens along with genuinely positive, innovative or new ideas they get relentlessly questioned and attacked. Only if they seem genuine though. Those who present false positives and false hope seem to get free passes (at least until the majority wakes up).

Those part of the “system” are not nearly tested as much as those who haven’t sold their souls yet. In fact their faults, weaknesses and even transgressions are glossed over. It’s a self defeating way to view the world.

I could be talking politics here but the central themes I address can be applied in many ways. Gears in the machine that go along with the flow of the machine cause no sparks. Ironically, sometimes the machine has been so twisted toward dissonance, stagnation and theft of energy that “normal” running for it is full of sparks and squeaks. Not meaningful and symphonic notes mind you. Insentient noise without rhyme or reason.

It’s not easy to wake up but it’s a lot worse to avoid waking up.

Maybe we can wake up though, collectively, the majority of us, maybe. We have to overcome our fear to leave the cave though.

Feline Teachers

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https://www.facebook.com/georgehtakei/videos/1415725458456903

Those are some playful cats! I bet there’s a part of your soul that wishes it could jump in that pile and roll around, even if your brain is telling you it would be dangerous. It probably would be dangerous unless you were really grounded and good at talking with animals.

They are magnificent though. Feline energy is a powerful force on this Earth. It’s fierce yet very in touch with the heart. It’s independent yet affectionate.

Why can’t we all get along like this?

Maybe because a lot of people’s consciousness is held in/run by their reptilian brains not their limbic brains? Maybe every shock and trauma in the world upon the masses, repeated in the media… maybe because the way we are raised in our modern world strips away self identity, self reliance and self security.

If you pay attention to the world out there you’ve probably noticed how dark it is. It’s almost as if human consciousness is racing backwards. People work themselves to the ground for material things. People fight, manipulate and kill each other for basic security. People believe in “the dream” and look up to leaders who are more cut throat than they are.

Buttons are easily pushed, triggers are easily triggered. Egos salivate at the mouth to speak without listening. Every news story presents an opportunity to exercise dualistic “black vs. white” thinking. We’re divided in of ourselves and have become petty minded like walking piles of conflict and division. You might say we are losing both spirit and soul.

The limbic/monkey brain is higher than the reptilian brain yet it’s still the animal brain and we have a difficult time connecting with it. We’re being reduced to machines. Many people believe that you aren’t successful unless you are making a certain amount of money, have a certain size house or aren’t famous. Success is too little judged by walking one’s self authentic path, the development of self awareness, by virtue of deeds done, by what brings joy and growth to the individual or what contributes something constructive to society. Often success is judged by how much shiny empty nothingness one can attain while destroying as much of their self and others as possible.

This has lead us to a collective state of ennui and emptiness. Without true fulfillment of the spirit and soul our souls are starving, driving us to become more cold and mechanical. Especially since in our modern rat race many people idealize the snake/eagle “alpha” predator prototype, for reasons including emulation of psychopaths (power and material wealth at any cost) and ancient patterns repeating in human hosts (having to do with a disconnection from the heart in favor of material based intellect). See: the eagle and the condor

We as a species greatly see power in cold blooded viciousness and manipulation. We need to remember that there is power in warm blooded playfulness and empathy. One is a spiritual path that leads to growth and expansion, one is an anti-spiritual path that leads to a reduction and loss of spirit. We live in times where many peoples’ spirits are asleep or they’re willfully denying their spirits-the massive amount of self revelation and worldly truth that their awakening spirits would shine upon for their tenacious egos to cope with.

The spirit thrives in unfettered playfulness and honesty. Both allow the inner fire within us to come alive, to come out and to expand in creative ways. In our world we face much resistance against the inner fire. It is repressed and traumatized (beginning with male circumcision, also before birth), and comes out in warped and destructive ways. We are the elves from Lord of the Rings that are being perverted into orcs.

The feline is again a very potent teacher both in real life and symbolically, especially where human consciousness is currently stuck at. Animals can be greatly helpful to us in our struggle. Especially those playful cats that call out to the primordial parts of our Earthly souls. It’s very important to connect with the playful parts of ourselves, which also of course connect us with our inner children and the mother. The literal mother, mother Earth, the universal Mother and the feminine energy of animation and regeneration.

The feline manages to pull off the top predator thing whilst being warm blooded/playful/cuddly/loving too. They also rough around without hurting each other. Those big furry predators can teach us a lot about warmth and affection, about independence and boundaries, even self reliance as they leap into and walk branches with ease. There are many reminders we can gain from cats besides that they are cute and fun to watch! They make you want to go play in the grass until you collapse in a warm cuddly pile.

Felines (also canines-which are from wolves, another animal that knows how to play and show warmth) show more empathy than some people! This doesn’t mean that animals are more compassionate than people. It means that human beings have been reduced in spirit and heart. It means that we can awaken again if we heed spirit, warmth and courage.

Maybe these animals can help us all remember something that human souls often lack in our vain/hyper idealized soundbites/colorful shiny touch screen world. Something to do with the warmth and genuineness of being. Maybe just remember that we’re human beings and that there is no pain, fear or stress that has the power to strip our beingness from us or scare us away from being.

We spend enough time in the dead and dark parts of our minds already. What about the spirit, what about the living breathe within each being, within each moment?

Then again this is speculation, maybe I read too much into cats and cuddling *smile face*

Way To Go Doc Brown

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This is an amazing video and message. Watch it and watch it again. It’s pure and inspirational. I found it more so than any movie released this decade. It reminds me of a time when the message could be simple and inspirational, not convoluted and brooding.

This isn’t a reboot/remake/rehash/CGI of Doc Brown speaking his classic lines either. It’s the same Doc Brown. Doc Brown being his good natured and off kilter self with more wrinkles and a tired looking face. Yet the message is as powerful as it always has been.

Let’s keep open minds, let’s clear ourselves of the gunk/darkness/cynicism/unnecessary drama. The future is being made in this moment right now. The best thing we can do is clear ourselves and remember how to fly. Remember the inner spark, as Doc Brown always did.

It’s easy but not something you think about. It’s in the release and letting go. Doc brown didn’t have many mean bones in his body, that’s why he could create flight (Biff didn’t create it, he temporarily stole it and it killed him). Doc is a character. You’re a real person. The spirit is the same regardless of who embodies it.

If we do that we will naturally manifest and gravitate toward positive futures.

We’ll Create Sails Or Sinkholes Together

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I may be enthrallingly enthusiastic and supportive of others’ dreams (if you know me you know that I should be charging life coach fees) but it creates a bright and beautiful glow to do so. The flow we facilitate with each other is the flow we also facilitate for ourselves.

Let’s believe in ourselves and see the best in each other. From deep in our hearts, from our minds high. The wind we put in each other’s sails in the wind we put in our own sails. The energetic waves take on a life of their own. Let’s sail far. Let’s know ourselves intimately within. Let’s sail into the vast expanse. The adventure of existence, breathed in every precious moment.

Why, aren’t you a beautiful bunch of flowers

I don’t like gossiping about others behind their back for the same reason I wouldn’t criticize someone else’s dreams or creations. Because it’s dark and weak to do so. It’s an attempt, born in insecurity and fear, to create a position of dominance over someone else. It creates a dagger when we create a dagger to stab in someone else’s back. That dagger wasn’t there before. It can and probably will be pulled out some day, by someone, and used against us. The thing is we’re already used to attacking ourselves.

It can take a cold splash of water to sober up. We each have the power to stop the patterns in ourselves with the power of awareness. A strong inner stance is the best way to overcome insecurity and evaporate the fears. When it comes to inner standing all one needs to know is ONE THING. ONE THING when facing any self destructive pattern or behavior that tears others down. ONE THING and repeat it often, “I am better than this”

When you realize that, you’ll find all the gold. The golden rule according to common understanding is off. We might all want to be treated in different ways so to assume our ways over others is arrogant and pushy. It is not truly listening.

Author’s note: The irony of togetherness is that it requires a deep sense of individuality in the self to witness and appreciate (rather than depreciate). A deep still center in which to listen from. To be apart from… yet at the same time be part of everything and let everything be part of you. To hear all.

Contrary to popular belief, short sighted greed is not the most creative destination of the self, free will, individuality, all the aspects of SELF that we demonize (or religions demonize, and we follow by engaging in subtractive thinking that loses touch with real higher power, the source in all, the absolute and infinity). The self developed one gains something more. They gain witness to creation. Learning to become aware is the first step to becoming a better co-creator, more able to witness the beauty. By witnessing it we play a part.

The “golden rule” as commonly understood is not a suggestion of observance but of action based upon one’s own preferences without observance of the other person. A lack of awareness leads to fool’s gold.

The true golden rule is “Do not do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you”.

Only in a place of inner standing and awareness can we each fully realize what that means.

It doesn’t mean that others will never be able to do crappy things to you. It means that you will be less likely to become entangled if they try. It means that you’ll be able to face yourself in the mirror more clearly. It means you’ll be able to breathe more freely.

It is only the bright examples that others make that can motivate us to find our own. We need each other to shine, to inspire and even provoke each other, otherwise we forget that we can shine too.

At the end of the day it’s about the beds we make for ourselves. It’s the self relationship and whether or not we can stand ourselves.

So stand tall. Stand strong, within.

Be Offensive

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The most offensive thing you can do to others is believe in them.

You’re gonna clash with their self imposed limitations.

The most dangerous thing you can do is believe in others.

You’re gonna clash with the tribe, its traditions and mental rulers (religion, education, family, the unconscious unconscious mind).

The most powerful thing you can do is believe in yourself.

It shows others that it’s possible.

Inner Life

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You can travel the world a hundred times, you could go to different planets, you could study every microbe under a microscope.

It is the inner life which must come alive.

It is the inner life that all experiences relate to.

It’s from within we reach out and find within ourselves life alive.

Those who are wise learn to embrace and nurture their inner universe. That they hold the universe within them too.

To Take Advantage For We Or For Me

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One of the hardest truths for the empathic soul to reconcile is that people take advantage of each other in this world.

Everyone is at their own level of consciousness and strengths, motivated by their own drives, exercising their own free will. The elimination of free will would be a step backward in the complexity of our evolution as conscious beings.

We must learn to accept our freedom and the power with it because in doing so we come to the next step, which is the next question we must all ask ourselves when taking advantage.

Are we taking advantage in a way that advantages others or disadvantages them?

Are you sure? Ask yourself again. Are you really sure? Ask yourself again. Do you want the best for them, whatever it is? How can you know what that is?

Are you thinking with your ego or your empathy?

It’s a responsibility only we ourselves can take.

This question when asked deeply, honestly, soberly and completely is free will’s saving grace.

Can we take advantage while helping and even directly co-enabling the advantage of others?

With this question we can step into an additive, embracing, expansive reality and away from a subtractive, diminishing, schism-creating reality.

You have great dreams, but do you include-with love and good spirit-others in your dreams?

Penetration emanations

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https://www.facebook.com/kissingthesacred/posts/472755846216889
http://jackielrobinson.com/2015/04/23/feminine-power-of-penetration-no-more-playing-small

Penetration is everything. When you’re healthy and involved in life, you penetrate life. When you’re sick, afraid, etc, you don’t penetrate life and become distant and wither. It’s as much about bravery as it is strength. Plenty of people have the strength but squander it, they don’t have the bravery or interest.

So, this idea can be looked at sexually and it can be looked at from a more fundamental level.

The sexual is of course enjoyable to play with, and I wish more women understood that they need to be penetrating too (and the responsibilities that go with that). For a conscious man it comes naturally to know that one need bring a positive, loving, passionate, uplifting energy into his “penetration”. He knows that his energy must be positive and healthy, and he must create a balance with his rawness and stability. He’s gotta bring the right music to tune into his partner. Most women don’t want toxic, violent energies brought into their sacred spaces.

There’s a lot that needs to go into mastering our positive, forward moving energies in a conscious way. It’s great to be around those who have done so, it’s even better to be with romantic partners who have whether you’re a woman or man. Penetration takes place at any time in a relationship, it doesn’t begin and end with sexual intercourse. It’s every moment you touch their psyche and heart, and they touch yours. A fucking simple embrace can be orgasmic if done right.

I agree with the above links that for women, in general, to realize that they too penetrate their partners they must see themselves not as victims or strictly as receivers but as empowered and active forces as well. I’d like to see more women embody and own the power of their yang energies, their penetrating energies too. It’d be great if more women did that. They already do to mild extents, anytime we’re with someone our energies are going to mix, but you have to be conscious of something to fully embody and utilize it.

It feels amazing for either sex when someone (consensual of course) penetrates you with their raw, passionate, living, loving, powerful, beautiful energy. The genuine focus of real penetration is not selfish! It is to focus on your partner and getting to know them. It’s to share yourself with your partner as you come to know them. Look past the common stigmas of the word “penetration” – ie. it implies destructiveness or has to do with wanting to control or rape someone. That’s not true penetration. True penetration is giving and selfless. In a partnership dynamic, it seeks to reach the other person. Narcissism could give a care less about reaching and touching the other because it’s too involved with itself.

How many times have you gazed deeply and meaningfully into the eyes of your partner during lovemaking? How many times have you shown genuine care and interest in their souls? Lovemaking is the one time we should be striving to be most intimately open and penetrating. It might take practice and conscious effort to bring that depth of touch to other interactions with a partner but lovemaking provides the biggest incentive… because it’s lovemaking…

I’m for women learning the power of penetration and how they penetrate too because it’s necessary. I say that as a man who has experienced being extremely detached from his feelings and emotions, and whose learned to be penetrating in of himself. So extremely in touch as well. I know the pain many men suffer that they don’t know they’re suffering because they don’t know any differently. We can of course learn to penetrate ourselves, to get to know our own hearts and minds but I don’t think it’s either a completely independent journey or completely one in which a partner is relied upon. I think it’s both and we need to be strong and honest enough with ourselves to admit when we’re ready and need to take each step. Intimacy is not an easy journey to take but it is rewarding.Many a man becomes a bitter and angry man because he loses touch with the engagement of life in himself and no women are seeking to provide that for him. They’re not thinking about how they can offer their unique penetrating energy and yang force but if you’re a woman and have a partner or partners you should be because it’s one of the best things you can offer.

Deep down most men are afraid of their feelings and feel miniscule inside. They’re in a world that belittles them. Western culture is terrible toward manhood. People use the excuse of the worst examples of men to perpetuate that hate, unfortunately people don’t see that tearing down one side has dire consequences upon the other. Yet men also crave what women crave. Many men don’t know how to feel and connect with their passion and energy though. Good partners can open many windows for us.

If you’re a woman you probably know the joy that a man can offer you by being strong, focused, penetrating with this masculine energy. Well we all have yang energy and to bring it lovingly and passionately to a partner, to penetrate and entice them, to surround and arouse them with it is again one of the best things one can offer to a partner.

Most strong men don’t dream of helpless victims. They want women who are strong in their own rights. Women who can stand side by side with them, to share in intimacy with someone of equal passion and power. Anything less is draining. A smart man will seek women who renews his masculine energy. A smart man will stay away from a woman who saps his yang energy, usually because the woman has an unhealthy relationship with her own or a debt in herself that she needs to feed off of the man for. This is not unlike how abusive men steal feminine energy from women which can leave the most beautiful and loving women feeling ugly and empty. When we learn to stand in our inner power we learn to renew ourselves and cherish our energies, we learn to renew each other… Speaking of cherishing our partner’s energies and what they penetrate and surround us with (every drop), well, that’s a blog for another time!

Perhaps one of the greatest responsibilities we have as sexual, creative, energetic beings is that of learning and wielding our strengths. We might all have different kinds of strength but need stand in our strengths. No one who stands in their strength is a helpless victim. To share our strengths, our penetrating and encompassing energies, our desires to do something uplifting and enjoyable for our partners is not just about doing something for your partner. It’s something that is going to repay you by elevating the overall joy and passion that you share with your partner. For men and women. It takes a deeper sight to see this. Shortsightedness and pettiness will defeat anyone. What we do today will be what stands or crumbles tomorrow.

Remember that we all want to be penetrated. We all need to be shown the light, so to speak. We crave it, we yearn for it. We need to be touched by loving energy, and through its flow we find a way. Through the deepest chasms of our closed off desires and locked hearts. We find a breath, we find the light within. We find our own aroused expressions. To be touched is to know how to be touched, is to touch and teach someone how to touch.

When it comes to literal penetration, sex and romantic love we have a responsibility. If we’re going to fuck each other we should fully and thoroughly penetrate each other. It feels great, but it is a responsibility too. If we can’t handle the responsibility we shouldn’t fucking be fucking playing around with fucking.

When it comes to penetration there is no half way. There is all the way or nothing, part way or an illusion is still nothing. This goes for going solo-plunging into and getting to know thyself, as well as romantic and sexual partnerships. Go full or go away. Do or do not, there is no try.

We all like it when someone takes the time and makes the effort to know and penetrate us, and open the doorways of life, love and light within us. We all enjoy that and it does everyone well.

If not you’ll die in there, in the small meek place in yourself. The unpenetrated place that you’ve not plunged and opened up and exhaled to the world yet, that hasn’t been penetrated yet. We die without contact with that loving light. We need life to touch us deeply, it’s the only way to touch life.

So let’s shake off the stifling one dimensional gender roles, or the idea that if a woman penetrates a man it’s gotta be with a dildo (because as robots of the internet age everything has to be literal). That’ll help bring some light in the context of sex and romantic love.

Bring on the empowered women who own their strength and energy, and know how to use it as much as men are expected to be masters of their cocks. Empowered women are a joy to behold. They can be rarer than a man whose learned his own yang energy, but the empowered woman who knows how to emanate and penetrate with her love and beauty is truly a wonder. I’m not talking about women who want to supplant men (they’re just as astray as men who bank on technology to compete with and replace women). We don’t need to compete with each other to each embody the emanation of our strengths. We each bring it forward in a different way. Learning to do so is to become comfortable with ourselves. To become comfortable with the strength we bring to life, not just to other people, is the first and most important step.

It doesn’t matter how weak, meek or like a victim anyone feels. Anyone can learn to become comfortable with their strength, their force of yang, and express it. Of course doing so in sexual play is a most enjoyable way. There’s satisfaction gained in knowing that you’ve proactively made someone smile. You weren’t just there in the flesh of thrusting firmness or rippling body parts. You are a leader at the forefront of the raw drenched orgasmic waves. Surfing the ecstasy.

Man or woman, we all seek partners who are self aware and empowered. Eventually, we have to wade through our distractions first. Our fallings for those who are simply good looking or have some hot button quality… but we’re not really dealing with the full force of self awareness and strength with them. When that power awakens within us we’ll only truly be satiated when we find it around us and in our important relationships.

Empowerment seeks empowerment (or inpowerment). Empowerment reinforces empowerment and sets it free.

Let love teach you

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Introduction: This was written while wondering why people play control games in love, with love and sex. I’m perplexed by the contradictions out there. The over sexualization out there combined with the dogmatic condemnation of sex.

As a man I’ve found a particularly dangerous expression of this contradiction in women who play the seductive role for the sake of coercing a man into a controlling and severe relationship. It becomes dangerous for a man because those women are often waiting to demonize men, and sexuality, and even anything a man has shared with them, the moment that he doesn’t play along with their controlling game.

That can be scary for a man. I’ve said enough about my experiences though because I don’t kiss and tell, about the good or bad. I’ve generally experienced both extremes with the feminine including what I am going to write about in this essay as I see the true purpose of the feminine beauty. I’ve also experienced its dark side. You might say its controlling and heartless side. Which I consider to be very in line with negative masculinity as both lack heart and aren’t in touch with organic soul. On the male side there are abusive men who use force against women to control them. Sexuality isn’t fully recognized in controlling behaviors, it’s used as a tool to control and take something from others.

It’s sad when people do that because our passions and sexualities are such beautiful things.

The thing about anything in life is we can use it for creativity and joy or for control, but not for both. You can believe otherwise but we all find out the truth, either being on the controlling side or being the person who is subject to someone else’s controlling behavior. We can’t make others love us. Using force or force through coercion/blackmail to make others love us creates the conditions of false love and the illusion that we are loved. It doesn’t give us love.

Love begins in self acceptance and becoming comfortable with others. Love begins in loving ourselves and letting others love us. Real, deep love is met in the condition of receptivity and allowance. It’s not something we can control or put conditions on.

Actually, speaking about the authentic feminine it’s purpose is to teach us about being receptive and receiving love and beauty. Centering ourselves and allowing it, not grabbing it like an overly excited sexual partner. The authentic feminine also teaches us about conditional love in the form of transient and mortal love. This is the lesson to experience, let go and enjoy the moment but realize that it is transient. Even if you find one true monogamous partner one of you is going to die first, so the corporeal love affair ends eventually.

The authentic feminine’s teaching is to accept that life is mortal and can have challenges, but still to remain open to the beauty of it and let the love flow. Women are close to this lesson with their monthly cycles and the labors they experience in childbirth, and the child knows that there is nothing like a mother’s love. The receptivity toward life and love is the authentic archetype of beauty and seduction at work. It is to get us so worked up in joy and the ecstasy of experiencing life, and of creatively engaging in life, that we transcend our fears and in that way transcend the mortal condition (even though we’re most deeply enmeshed and aware of it).

It is the lesson of total unconditional love and acceptance, and that conditional beauty will always find a way to flow. Watch nature, no matter what is done to nature it always finds a way to make a place beautiful. We’re each and all beautiful if we want to accept it. In that acceptance we will find all love, from conditional erotic love to unconditional love. Love and beauty of all kinds are expressions of each other.

The feminine has been denigrated in our world though, and there are many negative programs which are dark distortions of femininity and masculinity that we act out. Sometimes we do so out of the fear and subconscious belief that we have to counter the dark behavior of others with our own. So conditional love for women becomes using physical love and emotion to gain/control a man who makes the most money/has the most stuff. Men play their own game by trying to sequester the the most stuff/be the most domineering toward women who are treated as attainable prizes.

As for the masculine, the false impulse to gain and sequester the most “stuff” (even hurting others in the process) is rooted in the masculine drive and duty of building the most energy and vitality so that a man can impress a woman with his ability to please her. To a more superfluous extent the masculine drive to collect “stuff” is done to peacock for potential partners, but security and the nests we build are most importantly built within. The false masculine impulse to be domineering is rooted in the drive to be self secure and decisive in life.

When it comes to the dance of love; authentic masculine and feminine power, as much as we can build up, eventually comes down to using it to move, motivate, inspire the opposite and your partner. It’s realizing that you are a mighty person or beautiful person but you’re using that in a dance that is about more than you, you can only really get to know yourself in the dance. You use it to help the “other” reach the sky… and through their joyful swells of heart, their palpitations and deep feelings you get to experience that part of yourself too (feminine or masculine).

There’s a reason that chivalrous knights kneel to the maiden, and that men get on one knee to propose. It is a completely sexual and passion drenched reason. It is saying, “I submit myself. Take me, show me, teach me your mysteries and beauty”. It is not giving away the ego and masculine power, it is a conscious bowing and self control of the male ego to recognize the power and beauty of the feminine, and its mysteries.

There is a reason that in our oppressive world women are drugged and laid down during childbirth, and standing birth is still seen as kooky (standing birth mind you can put the man or masculine partner in a position under the woman – her beauty, mystery and reproductive power). I’m not saying that natural birth is for everyone but the archetypal metaphors and symbolism in our world and how we do things says a lot about our world. Every behavior and pattern that we live is an archetype in motion. We are living expressions of deeper energies and intentions.

Authentic love is about realizing that, seeing the beauty in ourselves, accepting it, surrendering in it and playing in it because when it comes down to it love and sex are supposed to be enjoyable.

Even in authentic erotic love there is no chase. There can be playful games and teasing but there is no ultimate beginning and end. It’s a song with peaks and valleys but that is continuous. We like to think in linear set beginnings and ends though. In that context erotic love boils down to chasing and conquering someone (and then wondering why they’ve changed and getting bored with them). For men it’s often about ejaculation. However the creative and spiritual reality that all creation exists is continuous creativity. I’m not saying that no one should ejaculate, I’m saying not to treat it or anything as the ultimate end of the dance (if you’re a man this can mean a “massage” for your partner if you come first). Love, of all kinds, is something we authentically do in joy, from a place of love and joy in ourselves. It’s the dance that eternally awakens in the heart.

Men and women who play these games don’t do so from a place of love. These are played from a place of fear and insecurity-especially when they’re played in reaction to how the opposite sex has hurt us. Usually the people who play them the most have been hurt the most.

How can that be fixed? How can anyone be helped? It’s a good idea to get in touch with the beauty in ourselves though. Including the parts of ourselves that we’re not in touch with, have repressed or demonized (which sexuality often is for people). It begins in self acceptance. In letting the love, beauty and sensuality that fills the world reach you.

It is in our power to make love and sexuality enjoyable. It is in our power to rediscover the joy of being in ourselves just as much as it is to make life miserable.

Sometimes it is a very higher minded thing to keep sexuality in the context of sexuality, romance for the sake of romance, and appreciate it for what it is. Sometimes this allows us to see deeper into ourselves and partners without trying to, without trying to make it something.

This is true if we seek and keep in mind meaningful engagements of our time and energy. Don’t be afraid to explore what that means for you and can mean for you.

These meaningful uses of time and energy can’t be defined by a certain relationship type or contractual agreement. You can’t make someone love you. No amount of sweetness can force someone into a relationship agreement… but we try… Sometimes we succeed. Then we set yourself up for pain because someone will wake up eventually. There will be a break up, or divorce, or someone will cheat on the other person.

Trying to control other human beings with sexuality, to control their sexuality and have exclusive access to their love is going to invite problems because it’s a dark agenda to begin with. I don’t mean devilish as in Earthly, sensual, passionate (things that are demonized in our masculine-out-of-touch-with-the-feminine and autistic world). I mean it as cold, dark and misery inducing. Real devils are robots without feeling, not passionate grounded creatures alive with the bliss of life all around us.

Too often we’re willing to do anything to force or coerce others into relationships and contracts because we’re reacting to the mirage of contracts, to programming in ourselves that tells us that we need a partner. We need to get married. We need children. We can’t be alone… and we devalue ourselves, we peddle ourselves to try to gain certainty from another uncertain human being, we play all sorts of games because we believe we have to to net a partner. It’s all for nothing because we’re not stagnant creatures. I don’t mean that to be cynical. The person passionate for freedom is going to seek that freedom with love, to see through their conditioning out of love, passionately drop the dark games. Once we realize how futile the games are and we stop playing them we’re free to get to know and explore ourselves. We’re free to find and create real connections with other human beings that may become deeper and turn into relationships.

There’s two big intentions we can set in love. That is the intention of freedom which is genuine love, or the intention of arrestment which is inauthentic love.

There are no such things as contracts set in stone (our world is full of contracts that attempt to deny reality, debt based money is an example). We are fluidic, ever changing beings. Sure the basic essence of what we are remains but we go through many stages, cycles and changes in life. We often share agreements with others when we engage in the dance of love with them, and these agreements are usually unspoken. They are in the mutuality we share with others.

True love has no contracts though. It’s loving someone and that they and you will change. It’s creating a space in your heart for them, with open two way doors. It’s realizing that you can share with someone if you choose to and share for the pure sake of sharing.

Playing with the object of your desire means seeing the object of your desire as more than an object. It is seeing and imbuing them with the freedom, love and joy that you love and desire yourself.